Goal Setting for Kids
Goal setting is essential for building a successful life.
However, teaching kids how to set and achieve goals is not part of most school curriculums, nor is it taught in most homes.
Many parents never learned the techniques of goal setting, and are still struggling with their own. You don’t need to know it all.
While you develop your own goal-setting skills, you can also be helping and encouraging your children to develop theirs.
Goal setting is a life-long skill.
It helps your child to focus their unique gifts and talents, it helps to cultivate and strengthening your child’s self-worth, and equips them to lead a life full of meaning purpose, and direction, regardless of the professional or personal paths they choose.
Things to consider when setting goals with your kids
CAREER – school grades, skill development, future plan (ambition);
PERSONAL- character development, and personal growth (self-image, sense of responsibility, ability, sefl-esteem), appearance;
HEALTH – exercise, diet, over-all well-being, balance;
COMMUNITY – commitment to serving others (volunteer work);
FINANCIAL – understanding the value of money, earning, saving;
FRIENDS – expanding their circle of friends, choosing friends wisely; HOUSEHOLD – chores, contribution to building home life;
RECREATION – hobbies, relaxation, fun activities (movies, parties, etc.)
Things to remember Expect resistance; Be firm; Look for performance, not perfection; Kids need to see the end before they begin (incentive – what will happen if…); Kids need rewards; Kids need praise.
As kids learn how to set goals and experience the difference goal setting makes in their personal destinies, it will encourage them to take action.
They will begin to create lives for themselves that they want and “Dare to live their Dreams!” As your kids become more aware of greater possibilities in their lives, and tap into their respective talents they will develop a stronger sense of self and of their contribution to society.
Success – the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. Failure – Lack of success. When we make mistakes and truly learn from each respective lesson these corrections are directly correlated to our eventual and inevitable success.
Tips on Goal Setting
Setting Goal is like painting the tracks towards your desired destination. Without goals, you will get lost in the jungle of life.
Although you may reach your destination, the means of reaching it might not be within the standard of your morals.
In order to reach your goals guilt free and swiftly, consider the following tips when setting goals.
1. Remember that every person has goals
Similar to the dissemination of information in a company, you may need to have some form of communication to relate your goals to those people who are directly affected by these goals that you have set.
Remember that everyone have goals of their own. So it is important that those closest to you be informed of any goal which you perceive can have a direct effect on them.
2. Start from top to bottom
When setting a goal, start from the top to bottom and not the other way around. Remember to have a foresight, to know what you really want in life.
Start from there, then work your way down. Start from the most important aspect to the least important aspect of your life.
3. Define areas of division
To avoid getting too overwhelmed with the goals that you have set, learn to divide the areas of interest.
From there, identify and set important goals. Again, implement this rule of thumb, “set from top to bottom.”
By defining areas of importance, you may open your eyes to new possibilities that you have never seen before.
You would realize that these areas are intertwined and setting goals in one area would have an effect to the other areas or would entail sacrifices from you.
6. Set benchmarks for your goals
Before you could even measure your goals, you have to first set reasonable benchmarks.
You would use these benchmarks to measure whether you have achieved your goals or not. These benchmarks can usually be expressed in quantitative terms.
7. Know when to stop
What are the signs that your goal is going on the wrong track? When it is time to bid goodbye to a goal and walk away? Consider the following:
– You are losing money than you have to
You tried gauging the monetary equivalent of a goal. You found out that you are spending way too much just to get the target. What should you do? Walk away and set more attainable goals.
You can go back to this expensive goal if, and only if, you’ve re-mapped your goal plan, studied every pros and cons for pursuing it, and raising enough money to actually attain in.
– You have spent too much time and effort to reach it
If your goal has been taking all your time, away from yourself and loved ones, walk away from it. You have other important goals to attend to.
– More and more of your loved ones are begging you to let it go
If you’re a family man and your wife and kids are begging you to let go of your goal, learn to halt. Don’t think that halting is like giving up. You have just learnt to know of your priorities.
You can start pursuing for your goals again after you’ve studied and learnt to manage your time and resources.
Overcome The #1 Goal Setting Barrier
I’m sure you, like me, are bombarded with emails, conversations and thoughts about goal setting, particularly each new year.
If I had a nickel for each email I’ve received since Jan 1st that talked about goal setting, I’d be a rich woman! Yet, have I set my goals down on paper yet? No, I haven’t.
Until this week, I have been diligently trying to avoid the whole topic, no doubt because I have had limited success with achieving any goals I’d actually written down in years past.
Then recently, some information came my way that just made so much sense. It’s not new information, that’s for sure, but I guess my mind was just finally open to it and it sunk in.
I FINALLY understand why having a “why” visibly attached to your go